Matchmaking for Marriage Relationship (I)

Revival of traditional matchmaking service

Nowadays, communication has never been so fast; meeting people has never been so easy. But more and more people are looking for and using some kind of matchmaking service — online or offline.

We all see the revival of the millennium-old traditional matchmaking service industry. People looking for matchmaking service are serious love and marriage seekers. They are quite prepared to pay a huge amount of money in exchange for the highest rate of success in the shortest time possible. The Guinness Book of World Records listed Orly Hod (Orly the Matchmaker) — whose fees run up to $100,000 — as the world’s priciest matchmaker.

We do not have to look at the statistics before we know that more people live longer today than those a century ago; more people get divorced today than those a century ago. We begin to wonder why marriage relationships would not last longer than those a century ago. Anyone could easily give dozens of reasons.

Of course, most people would think of love and marriage relationships are more an art than a science. But recent research has discovered that even personality and behavior orientations have genetic determinants, and so do marriage relationships.

We also see what the matchmakers are basically applying in matching people is the so-called “scientific” tools — psychological tests, whether they are called compatibility tests or personality profiles.

Most of the matchmakers take the view that compatibility is the golden rule. They are like those ancient people looking at the sky, seeing the Sun rising from the east and falling to the west and thought that the Sun was rotating around the earth which was believed to be the centre of the universe. As a matter of fact, marriage relationships do not seem to depend on compatibility.

There are numerous real cases that some couples disliked each other badly, but were able to stay together for their entire lives, while some other couples loved each other deeply, but were only able to enjoy each other’s company for a very brief period of time. That is why there are so many great love stories like “Romeo and Juliette”.

If the problematic issues of marriage relationships can aptly be resolved by employing compatibility tests, life would relatively be easy. But is there anyone who is open-minded and prepared to look into any other alternative means that could really help those desperate marriage seekers?

Relationships might not depend on compatibility.

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